Marilyn Gordon, Cht
If you would like to heal the issues of your life, your
thoughts, feelings, and perceptions, here are a few questions
for transforming issues in the moment, a natural inquiry
process. They work well for self-healing, as well as for
sessions with another.
First
you choose the issue you would like to know about more fully
and ultimately transform. It can be an emotional experience,
something going on in your body, a rift in a relationship,
a trauma, a persistent habit or habit of mind.
The Three Questions
Here are
the questions. They all have depth to them, as you move layer
by layer into the healing process:
- What's
happening here?
- What
would my Wise Mind tell me about this?
- How
can I heal this?
You can
be creative with the questions, and one will lead to another.
Let your intuition take over, and you'll find that questions
come from deep places and will ultimately lead to revelations
and healing.
What's Happening Here?
The moment
you look at something from a state of interest or inquiry,
there is a change. You're not "stuck in the pea soup" of
the issue any longer, and you have begun to witness it.
This, in and of itself, creates transformation.
You find
an issue that is ready for healing, and you allow yourself
to pay attention to it. No need to push it away. So often,
we have parts of ourselves that have been pushed away or
rejected. Instead of doing this, we acknowledge these part
of ourselves. Our culture often seeks to suppress things
with drugs or diversions: "Here, take this, and the symptoms
or feelings will go away." There is a tendency to want to
"get rid of" things before we ever get to know them. But
this is a different approach. Allow yourself to "experience
your experience," to come to know it, to pay attention to
it, or in the words of the monk Thich Nhat Hanh, to "look
deeply." So many people fear looking at their experiences,
or they want to anesthetize themselves or even bring themselves
to states of light and love quickly -before they've explored
what's going on with themselves. Yet once you pay attention,
it is intriguing, fascinating and healing to come to know
what's going on with you. There is great value in paying
attention to what is taking place.
Sometimes,
as we've said, just by taking a look at something, healing
happens. All it needed was attention. Sometimes the process
is more complex. There may need to be emotional experiences.
Tears may need to flow. Fears may need to surface. But you
can handle it. With the intention of healing, all experiences
are embraced in an atmosphere of love and the potential
for transformation. This intention "holds the space" for
healing.
What
is it like to fully pay attention? You stand back and observe,
while at the same time, you're allowing yourself to fully
know what's going on inside. You ask your inner mind to
tell you about it:
- What's
happening here?
- What
am I feeling, seeing, hearing, knowing?
- What
am I experiencing in my body?
- Have
I ever experienced this before? When did it begin? Does
this remind me of anything else in my life?
- Is
this something I've made up or invented? Is it real?
- Tell
me more about it.
As you
answer, other questions will arise. Ask them until you feel
you’ve come to know the issue as well as you can for now.
What would my Wise Mind tell me about this?
Everyone
has the capacity to access the part of self that carries
wisdom - absolutely everyone. It's not the same as the conscience,
the Jiminy Cricket on the shoulder, which carries a moral
or value judgment. This is an innate capacity of the superconscious
state that people carry within as a part of their birthright.
It's a homeopathic remedy in the soul that understands the
wisdom in any given life situation. You may be given specific
things to do about the situation. As soon as you ask this
question, you find yourself in another level of your consciousness.
You may be moved to a more elevated state from which you
can see the situation in new ways. You come to know the
larger picture into which your own life situation is set,
and that instantly transforms the situation, itself.
How can I heal this?
The answer
to this will take many forms. It might mean that you bring
love to the situation. It might mean that you bring a state
of peace. It might mean that you see it in a different light
or that you bring light to it. It might mean that you embrace
the situation in a state of forgiveness, for yourself, or
for a perpetrator. It might mean that you're totally ready
to release this issue, as it ceases to be relevant any longer.
You may want to ask yourself what form the healing needs
to take.
One Woman's Experience
A woman
had been suffering for so long with deep fears of speaking
in public. She decided to ask the questions, to pay attention
to her struggle, as she needed to make presentations at
work.
"What's
happening here?" she asked herself. "My legs shake; my feet
feel as if they're going to leave the ground; my breathing
is so shallow, I can hardly take another breath. I feel
paralyzed and tongue-tied. I've felt this since sixth grade,
when someone laughed at me during a recital. I know I'm
creating this in my own mind, as I know I have something
to say, and I can speak to people one-on-one. I wish to
overcome this fear."
"What
would my Wise Mind tell me about this?" she asked herself.
"You can do this," her Wise Mind says. "You just have to
handle these physical symptoms and heal the sixth-grade
girl. You have an important talk to give, and you are now
being inspired and assisted by something larger than yourself.
I AM here to assist you. Just tune into this force beyond
you, and you'll do beautifully. You need to practice over
and over, and you'll have familiarity with this. You'll
do it with ease. Tune into what you're saying and what your
purpose is. Step out of your ego's need for approval. Speak
from a clear state."
She then
asked, "How can I heal this?" She found that she could indeed
bring healing to this situation. She learned to work with
her breathing to deepen and relax it. She went within to
the young girl's experience, and she brought love and compassion
to the girl. She was instantly relieved. She imagined herself
speaking eloquently in public. She felt a new energy come
into her body and mind, and an uplifted state - almost a
state of grace, in which she knew that a force beyond herself
was with her at each moment.
Radiating Love and Healing
As you
heal the issues of your life, you become a person who radiates
love and healing to others. This is how you also heal the
world. The more you attend to the issues on a personal level,
the more you become a beacon of healing and transformation
for humanity, itself.
We came
to this earth to lift ourselves up toward advanced consciousness,
divine awareness. By peeling off layer after layer of old
traumas, fears, experiences of disharmony and struggle -
we peel away layers of illusion that are covering the treasures
of love, wisdom, peace, truth, radiance and light that live
inside of us at the core of all existence.
This
is the purpose of our questions - to come to know the magnificent
consciousness that lies at our core. This consciousness
is the remedy for all the difficulties, struggles and ailments
of ordinary existence. We've come to this earth to dive
into this core and to live ultimately in states of enlightenment
and wisdom. To unravel the illusion of existence is a journey
we are all on.
Read Extraordinary Healing: Transforming Your Consciousness,
Your Energy System and Your Life by Marilyn Gordon.
It's a Guidebook for Healing Yourself and Others with Transformational
Hypnotherapy and EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques). Available
at bookstores or at www.hypnotherapycenter.com.
